I once learned a communication technique for spouses that goes like this.

At the end of every day each spouse tells the other one:

-something good that happened to them that day

-something bad that happened to them that day

-something the other spouse did to make them mad

-I love you because ______________________

If something comes up in this very short discussion you can choose to explore that further or you could just leave it at that.  For us it usually turns into a bigger discussion, most of the time it is about good things.

Parenting toddlers can be such a challenge and often times cause fights between you and your spouse.  I know for me I thought we had this parenting thing all figured out and that we were on the same page with everything.  ObviouslyI was naive.  There are a lot of times where we disagree with what the other person is doing in regards to parenting.  I think this communication technique can be very effective if you use it to talk about your parenting experiences that day.  Especially through those really challenging stages in childhood.  I find that when I am having a rough day just talking it over with my dh makes me feel better.  Especially when we are able to communicate in a way that is respectful to eachother.